Get the facts, direct to your inbox. I also am completely supportive of anyone deciding, before, during or after, that any given sexual experience or lack thereofactivity or scenario has a particular value to them. Virginity testing is not unique to Indonesia. By the 16th and 17th centuries, doubts about the hymen were widespread. Republish our articles for free, online or in print, under Creative Commons licence.
I want to leave all of you a few more links to look at, with my best wishes, and my hope that all of you, whatever your choices in the past, present or future, feel empowered to seek out what you want and think of yourself and your sex life in ways that make you feel good about yourselves.
My boyfriend checked my vagina and said I wasn't a virgin - how can I make him believe me?
The belief that it is easier to discern the virgin state of a woman than a man is more of a fable than a scientific fact. No change there, then. I just want to make clear that we are always making these choices and they are always important, so if any one time we feel like we got it wrong, we always have more chances to get it right. However, there are some things we can do to best avoid regret, and some things we can do to manage feelings of regret when and if we have them and use them to help us out. In a word, I know too much, and what I know sucks. No-one, neither a woman nor a man, should ever be compelled to endure such questioning, regardless of the reliability of the exam.