What differentiates a "date" from a "non-date"? Which is, to say the least, stressful for both parties involved. He said that wasn't what he had in mind and he'd rather just hang out with me among other signs of interest. At least not in the way you are accustomed to it. Here in Germany, it's not about the boy trying to impress the girl until she falls for him:
It's a real mess, on multiple levels, but when it comes to developing a relationship romantically, there's an expectation in America to be clear with your intentions and agenda.
As it happens learning different cultures and norms is highly fascinating to me, so just sharing a bit of my own cultural assumptions. The Signs and Tips! Though they seem to dislike spending their time with groundless conversation, Germans did have a good sense of humor. On the contrary, many German men will also date women that are much older too. German men have a tendency to date women that are much younger than they are.